{"id":2122,"date":"2025-01-06T20:31:13","date_gmt":"2025-01-06T20:31:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/news-vm.com\/?p=2122"},"modified":"2025-01-06T20:31:13","modified_gmt":"2025-01-06T20:31:13","slug":"woman-sends-list-of-rules-to-wedding-guests-soon-a-lot-of-them-start-cancelling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/news-vm.com\/?p=2122","title":{"rendered":"Woman sends list of rules to wedding guests \u2013 soon a lot of them start cancelling"},"content":{"rendered":"

Each bride hopes for the ideal wedding day. Although there are some aspects of your wedding that you can control, such as the attire, the location, the catering, and more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s impossible to always predict whether things will go as expected.<\/strong>\u00a0But this bride had a plan for making sure everything went off without a hitch on her wedding day.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But she quickly learns that not everyone sees the situation the same way.<\/strong>\u00a0Read on to discover more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Am I being unreasonable? is a question that a soon-to-be bride posed on Reddit. She posted her predicament in the well-known \u201cAITAH\u201d subreddit\u2014an acronym for \u201cAm I The Asshole\u201d\u2014in which it was received well.<\/p>\n

A soon-to-be bride posted that after sending the wedding guests a list of rules, she and her fianc\u00e9 started getting cancellations.<\/p>\n

Before she started writing, she stated that she wanted to be clear that her fianc\u00e9 had equally contributed to the rules and was enthusiastically in support of all of them, lest anyone think she was \u201cbridezilla\u201d imposing them against his will.<\/p>\n

She continued by outlining each rule in detail after that.<\/p>\n

The union of the couple called for a \u201cunpluggled ceremony.\u201d Unless there was a \u201chuge\u201d emergency, guests were not permitted to have their phones with them during the ceremony or the dinner that would follow. The prohibition against using phones during dinner was a bit much for the guests, even though they understood it during the ceremony.<\/p>\n

Some parents who were leaving their kids at home claimed they needed their phones to check on them, but she claimed she had told them that if she had to make an exception for them, she would have to make it for everyone. \u201cChecking with your kids is not an emergency,\u201d she wrote. If something significant occurs, you\u2019ll be informed.<\/p>\n

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Additionally, the couple had a rigid dress code and color scheme. Only black was requested, and men and women were required to wear tuxedos and dresses, respectively. No one was exempt from the rule.<\/p>\n

Her aunt, who had lost her husband and had dressed in all black while she grieved, was also not an exception and had now made her way back to a more colorful wardrobe. Even when she claimed that wearing black made her feel depressed right now.<\/p>\n

The dress code was a problem for her future sister-in-law as well because she always wore pants to feel more at ease with her body and no exceptions were made for her either.<\/p>\n

They told their bridesmaids to maintain their weight, whether that meant eating less or more to do so. They ordered the bridesmaid dresses months in advance.<\/p>\n

According to her, her mother was furious about the regulations and told the bride that her wedding was doomed from the beginning. Additionally, her bridesmaids made threats to withdraw, and she has last-minute cancellations from wedding guests.<\/p>\n

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The daughter of her maid of honor was supposed to be their flower girl, but this was no longer going to happen. The maid of honor declined to leave her daughter with her mother because the wedding venue is a four-hour drive from their home, despite the bride\u2019s request that she be left at a hotel with a babysitter during the ceremony.<\/p>\n

Of course, despite her introduction and warning, people continued to believe that she and her fiance were acting completely irrationally and were unquestionably the \u201cassholes.\u201d<\/p>\n

Many people emphasized that while weddings can be conducted in accordance with the couple\u2019s preferences, guests are not required to follow their wishes and are entirely free to decline the couple\u2019s invitation.<\/p>\n

Generally speaking, Reddit users agreed that the couple was making an unreasonable demand.<\/p>\n

If you liked this article, you might also like the one below about a couple\u2019s surprise at a strange request their mother-in-law made.<\/p>\n

What do you think of this couple and their demands for their wedding guests? Let us know in the comments!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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